The best way to describe shame to me is this feeling that you would get if you would out of a room that was filled with people who know you and they start saying such hurtful things about you that you don’t know that you could ever walk back in and face them again in your life. That’s what shame is.
It’s not the critic who counts. It’s not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done it different. The credit belongs to the person who’s actually in the arena, whose face is marred with dust, sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who comes up short again and again and again and who in the end, while he may know the triumph of high achievement, at least when he fails, he does so daring greatly. There are millions of cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never once step foot in that arena.
If you’re brave with your life, you choose to live in the arena, you’re going to get your ass kicked. You are going to fall. You are going to fail. You are going to know heartbreak. It’s a choice that I make every day. These are the words I say before my feet hit the floor every day. Today I’ll choose courage over comfort. I can’t make commitments for tomorrow, but today I’m gonna choose to be brave and I know what that means.
Vulnerability is not about winning. It’s not about losing. It’s having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome. Vulnerability is like the gooey center of hard emotion like shame, fear, grief and scarcity. Why should I do that? Why should I feel them? Why should I let other people see them? Like I don’t want to vulnerable: I want to armor up. I want to stay protected. Here’s the problem with the armor. The problem with the armor is that vulnerability but it’s also the birthplace of LOVE, BELONGING and JOY.
Here’s few myths of Vulnerability:
Vulnerability is weakness.
I don’t do vulnerability.
I can do it alone.
You can engineer the uncertainty and discomfort out of vulnerability.
Trust comes before vulnerability.
Vulnerability is disclose.
Thank you for reading and see you next weekend :)